To be healthy:
And talk to yourself right
This advice is right on the money! 😉
There are a million different ways to eat and exercise in order to become healthier, but all of these would not suffice if we didn’t practice honest and positive self-talk. I am saying this from my own experience. I consider myself eating in a healthier way than the majority of the population where I live. I also have a pretty healthy lifestyle, although I could exercise a bit more.
But when it comes to “talk right,” I have only started to do so recently. I realized that prior to my surgery, my mind was either in a constant loop of negative self-talk or in a perpetual mode of anxiety and worries. I didn’t even have to look for negative thoughts to fill my mind. They were there automatically. Why was that? I believe these thoughts first came into my subconscious mind through the voice of my mother, which was dominant in my childhood, and I just sponged it all up. This voice permeated my entire consciousness when growing up, and it didn’t leave me until quite recently. I would say most of these thoughts are false beliefs but they stuck and I believed in them anyway, no matter how irrational they were. Some thoughts can’t even be “categorized” as negative, but the consequences were negative on my health and well-being. For example, every time I had a meal, a voice in my head would tell me to hurry up and finish eating as soon as possible so I could “get on with my life”—as if eating was just a chore to get over and done with. No wonder I got digestion and stress issues before.
After my recent surgery, I find myself talking positively in my mind most of the time. I started hearing the voice of optimism combined with a sense of lightness and humor. Whenever something unpleasant is happening to me, I would automatically drift back to the worst ordeal in my life—the surgery and hospitalization—and immediately tell myself to look at the other side of the coin. Let’s say I am having a headache the whole day (which is happening to me most days now when I am still healing), I would tell myself, that’s actually quite mild and I am grateful that I am well enough to still think clearly and work. For each minor inconvenience or irritation, which I would often escalate into a typhoon or hurricane previously, I would now turn into a thought of blessing. This way, I would feel grateful under any circumstances and skip feeling like a victim of bad luck.
At long last, I have found my own voice—a voice that sprang from the dark abyss of suffering, a voice that replaced my mother’s nagging and negative voice in the back of my mind (which might have originated from her birth during the Second World World and a life time of stress). Finding my own true inner voice, I believe, is a mark of maturity.
Wayne Dyer has said the most important and powerful words in the whole universe are “I am.” This phrase defines how you view your life and thus, how you experience it. I think I am consciously putting this into action, without feigning positivity though. With all due respect, positive affirmations—the kind that Louise Hay has been preaching for decades—does work, but with a caveat: It works only if you truly feel it. The universe can feel the vibration of your being without hearing the actual words. My experience has confirmed that if I don’t honestly feel positive and then try to self-talk myself something positive, it wouldn’t work.
But now I have come to a stage in which I truly feel grateful for being alive. Every little detail—even what is commonly perceived as an obstacle—is a joy instead of a drag, a learning opportunity instead of a setback. I have seen how a small, positive and grateful thought always materializes into something positive. There is no other way. A positive vibration will always bring forth more positive vibrations. If you experience otherwise, watch for that minuscule speck of negative vibration at the back of your mind and in the bottom of your heart. Perhaps you have a molecule of fatalistic thought that good things won’t come to you. See if you can flip that around. Try it. You might be pleasantly surprised.